“How long have you been married?” someone asked me. With pride I answered, “20 years married and 22 years together.”
“Damn! I feel for you. That’s a long prison sentence.” they shook their head and replied. Looking at me with sympathy. They began to go down a list of things that would make sense in their head of reasons why I “had” to get married. When none of those reasons were mine, they finally came to the conclusion that I married for love and labeled me a rarity. In a world full of reality shows that don’t put marriage in a good spotlight, I suppose we are a rarity, that’s the sad part.
Why should marriage be viewed as a prison sentence? As if being with one person as long as I have is not a beautiful thing? Like I’m missing out on something by being in a committed relationship? There is nothing wrong with being single, but do not get it twisted, single people yearn for relationships that will blossom into marriage one day. Who doesn’t want someone in their corner who knows what you want out of life and will go to hell and back to make sure you get it? I married my friend so it doesn’t feel like 20 years. We still enjoy each others company, laugh and talk just like we did when we 1st started dating, we still hold hands in the car, still say ‘I love you’ everyday, we still are attracted to each other, but most importantly we still have God involved in our marriage.
Does that mean we don’t have arguments, disagreements and time spent on the couch at night (him, not me, LOL)? Oh we have our moments, but the good outweighs the bad and we keep pressing forward. With the younger generations overly exposed to Reality Shows that depict marriage in a bad light and under exposed to Real Life, we have to shed light on the this thing called Love & Marriage. I tell young people all the time that marriage is harrrd work but anything worth having is worth working for. The rewards are plentiful! So yes, I’ve been with the same man for 22years, yes, we’ve been married for 20 years this year, and yes, we get on each others nerves sometimes, but we wouldn’t have it any other way. If 20 years of marriage seems like a prison sentence….GIVE ME LIFE…DOUBLE LIFE…WITH NO POSSIBILITY OF PAROLE!!!
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Great post! I love the last sentence…”give me life!” Marriage is hard but the good outweighs the bad. I love knowing there is someone who I can be myself with (the good, bad and ugly) and still know he will love me regardless.
Thanks Camile! I’m glad you enjoyed it. Marriage is a thing of beauty when you’re married to the right person.